"HOW DO YOU GET UP FROM BEING HURT BY LOVE?"

So many people ask me that ministerially. I also moderate a
men's relationship group at POCC, which I have done since
June 2003, and much of what couples discuss is rooted not in
their present love, but their past stuff. 

The reason we don't like to deal with our own past honestly is
that, at some point, we all have to deal with the fact that the
relationship that we were in, we CHOSE to be in, and which
would you rather question --
HIS SANITY OR YOURS? 

The work of getting up from old relationships includes the very
honest first step of acknowledging, fully and truthfully, what it was
in the first place. Some of us were truly in wonderful relationships
with people who used their freewill to change their mind,
and your life.  Choices are what
make us human...we get to decide.

Sometimes it was decided for us and we come home and find stuff gone or someone sleeping in your bed, so
trust me, I overstand the pain. 

But then comes the examination of the heart.  How much could this
person have really loved you if the way they showed you was to
betray your trust or cheat on you or steal from you or worst of all, break your heart? 

The recovery room for love really isn't that crowded because so
many people believe that what they HAD
is all they will get.

Read JADED and write in to tell me
what you think.

KEVIN@JADED-THENOVEL.COM